Why Conventional Advice Isn’t working for you when it comes to making soul aligned decisions

Have you ever been given advice that sounded “good”, and then you tried to follow it and it just felt WRONG? But you could see others doing it, it worked for them, so it should work for you right?

Heres the thing – According to Human Design, we are all designed to make decisions differently, based on our unique Human Design Authority.

Some of us make spontaneous decisions in the moment.

Some of us need to sleep on it.

Some of us need to talk it out.

Some of us need to sync up to the lunar cycle.

Regardless of HOW you are designed to make the decisions, the key point here is that we all make em in our own unique way! The common thread through them all is that we are no longer designed to make decisions from our mind – our body leads the way!

The world we live in though? It caters to fitting us all in one box, one way of doing things, and making thought based decisions.

I’d love to live in a world where we honour each other’s unique decision making processes. Imagine how liberating and empowering that would be. Imagine how many arguments this could end, and how many relationships could thrive.

Lets explore advice – both giving and receiving.

It can come from the best of intentions … but it can also have disastrous implications and take you off the path that is meant for you!

When it comes to giving advice – we do it through the lens of what has worked for US. This can lead to an expectation that what will work for one, will work for all, and this is simply NOT TRUE.

When it comes to receiving advice, you can take on this well intentioned advice that is homogenous.

You may ‘think’ it sounds good, and logical, and you can see it has worked for others, so you follow it. But it doesn’t feel good, right, or like you.

If you keep pushing and forcing, you can end up feeling like something is wrong with you because it isn’t working for you like it did for other’s.

You end up making decisions that are not in alignment with who you are, or where you are meant to be heading.

Let’s take a look at some of the ‘conventional’ advice that can be offered to you (and perhaps you have offered to other’s!).

“Listen to your gut”

“Go with your first instinct”

“Just feel it out”

“What does your heart say?”

“Don’t rush, take your time”

“Don’t take too long, you need to make a choice now”

“Think it through”

“Make a pros and cons list”

There are 7 different Authorities in Human Design!

Which means many of us have COMPLETELY different processes.

It’s time we start to respect + honour this.

The “Follow your Gut” advice:

If you do not have your Sacral (or Spleen) defined, and are always being told to listen to your gut and go with your first instinct – you may feel very confused when you try to tap into this and struggle to connect to your ‘gut’. This can lead to you not trusting yourself because you feel like you can’t hear your intuition.

Not everyone can even “FEEL” their gut instinct, or “LISTEN” to what their gut is telling them.

70% of the world have Sacral definition, so you can see why so many offer this advice! But telling someone to ‘follow their gut’ is not helpful to those without Sacral or Splenic definition. And even if you do have these Centres defined, you may still have Emotional Authority and have the extra layer of riding your emotional wave.

Each process is SO INDIVIDUAL.

The “Just hurry up and make a decision” advice:

Pressuring people to make decisions never works in any situation. But there is a lot of conventional advice out there like “successful people make fast decisions”. Taking your time can be seen as being indecisive, even though this couldn’t be further from the truth.

But for those with Emotional or Lunar Authority – there is no truth in the now. Each of these Authorities have completely different processes that you go through when taking your time (One is riding a unique emotional wave, the other is deeply connected with the Lunar cycle) – but the common thread here is that you both need to take your time and wait for inner clarity.

If you are being told to rush your decision, you can be pressured into make a spontaneous and impulsive decision that is not correct for you, You may regret the decision or need to back out of commitments.

The “Feel it out” or “Sleep on it” advice:

If you do not have your Solar Plexus Defined, and are always being told to feel it out or take your time – you may start making decisions from an emotional place when you are not designed to! You may start to second guess your first initial gut instinct, and then decide against what your initial response was. You know what you want in the moment and this is an answer within that you can trust.

Not everyone has an emotional wave. 50% of the world have Solar Plexus definition, and if yours is undefined, you are AMPLIFYING all of this emotional energy. And so not only are you not designed to make decisions based on your emotions, you may be taking other’s emotions in, and then making decisions off SOMEONE ELSES emotions! This can have huge implications in your life!

If you have Sacral or Splenic Authority, being spontaneous and making decisions on the spot is correct for you.

The “”Let’s talk it out” advice:

Talking to other’s about our decisions and asking for advice is something we are all conditioned to do. You may feel overwhelmed and not trust yourself to make decisions. So you start to look outside yourself for answers.

There are those who are designed to talk out your decisions (Self Projected, Mental and Ego), and it plays out differently for each of these Authorities. One needs to hear the frequency of your voice, one needs to be in a safe space with people you trust and the other is speaking from your heart.

The common thread here is that you need to tune into the words you are speaking, and this is how you will access your inner clarity. But if you do not have total trust in those you are speaking with, you may hold back your words. They may be drowned out from the other giving advice, and you won’t be able to hear the frequency of your truth.

Imagine if we were all making decisions based on what is right for us, not for anyone else!

I encourage you to get reeaaaaal familiar with your Human Design Authority. It’s your decision making superpower and letting it guide + lead you can change your life. Start to experiment with it in your daily life.

Following your Human Design Authority helps you find clarity and build trust within yourself. Each soul aligned decision you make leads you to exactly where you are meant to be.

But the next , equally as powerful step? Find out your loved ones Human Design Authority. Support them and empower them to use it.

Let’s honour + celebrate our differences and watch the world around us transform.

Human Design is more than a tool for understanding ourselves, it’s a tool for our humanity to shift and evolve consciousness.